It is common for human beings to focus on doing, we put together lists of objectives, however, many times we repeat the same mistakes. Today I’m talking about a technique based on Eastern philosophy called Lingchi that allows us to discover why we fail, and thus not repeat the same behavior patterns.
“Lingchi” is a Chinese term that is commonly translated in the West as “death by a thousand cuts” and that I will share today to understand why we failed.
As you look back at life’s challenges, you’ll discover that personal failures are usually not the result of a single problem. Rather, the big problems in life, the ones that really matter, are usually the result of many small problems, thousands of seemingly tiny problems that we allow to accumulate over time, year after year.
Taken one by one, these little problems are barely noticeable. But when taken together, the eventual accumulation of these problems can lead to catastrophe. Dozens, hundreds of small problems accumulate and are defined in big problems. Disaster finally strikes, and we experience the “Lingchi”, “one death by a thousand cuts”.
As you meditate on this concept and look back at past obstacles in your life, you will be amazed at how rich the Lingchi metaphor is.
The thousands of little mistakes you’ve made in life may suddenly be obvious to you.
Can you see the long chain of bad decisions, which ultimately led to one failure or another?
In fact, your ability to identify the daily “little breaks” in your life is critical to developing an understanding of your problems and to remaining sufficiently aware of why these “little breaks” are occurring.
For now, let’s talk about where these “thousand little cuts” come from.
During goal setting, the four main vices are:
1: Procrastination
Procrastination is the act of putting off important tasks that seem too difficult to accomplish at the time. .
2: The Doubts
“I’m not good enough for this.”
“I can not do this”.
Doubt is a tool that we must tame.
3: The Perez
Whenever we encounter a new goal, we immediately have two feelings, one telling us that we are working towards a goal, while the other tells us to remain inactive and not expend energy.
4: Fear Of Goals
Deep down, we usually already know what the “right” thing to do is in any given situation. We know what actions would improve our health, wealth, and happiness. But we find ourselves in an endless cycle of bad habits and fear.
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